What are the causes of problems in family relationship (between parents and children)?

Parents, children and their problem in relationship are mentioned as a hot topic on the newspaper, magazines, internet, even on TV programs,… very often. The problems are misunderstanding, having different lifestyle and violence in family. There are some reasons that cause the problems in family relationship, between parents and children.

The most popular reason  in family relationship is: “parents don’t have time to take care of their children”. Mom and Dad now are both very busy with their job. They try to work with all their heart to get a lot of money in order to support their family, especially their children. Very busy with their work, parents hardly have freetime to cook, eat, talk, discuss, watch TV – activities that maintain our family relationship – with their children. Of course, children are very lonely and unhappy. They have difficulty sharing something with their busy parents because when their parents go to work, they still sleep; when parents come home, they go to bed already. That is the reason why some of them hate their parents and join in some bad activities like watching black web, drinking beer and smoking when they’re very young, playing violent games because they are very lonely or because they want their parents to focus on them. In this time, parents are too busy with their work, children are also busy with their negative activities. Parents get stressed from their busy work, children are affected  by violent games. Consequently, they misunderstand each other because of lacking time living together, they are easy to be violent in family relationship: parents take off their stress into their beloved children with a small mistake. Children become a murderer who kill their parents because their parents don’t give them money to play games or stop them doing something badly. So, parents don’t have time to take care of their children can cause problems in parents and children relationship like misunderstanding and violence in family.

Generation gap is the second reason that cause the problem between children and their own parents. Children and parents both have the difference in lifestyle because of their distance in age.  My parents and I are in generation gap. My parents are 30 years older than me so that we are very different in lifestyle and in our thought. While my parents think that rock music are very crazy, I think it is interesting. While they liked me-a girl taking cooking course, I like taking the computing course last summer. I still remember how stressful we were. I did not dare to talk with my daddy anymore, it would become a big problem if I didn’t wish that I would cook every meal to train my cooking ability and listen rock music in my own room with low volume.  According to some magazines, generation gap makes many problems in familly relationship, especially between parents and teenagers or adult daughters or sons. They have different ideas in hobbies and thought like my parents and I so that they are easy to get argument and hurt each other’s feeling because all of them think that they are true. Therefore, generation gap is one of the causes to lead the problems in family relationship.

Problems between children and parents are very common nowadays because parents are too busy to earn money for their children and because of the generation gap. I think that parents have to consider of earning money and teaching children, remember that teaching our beloved children is much more important than earning money. We cannot deny generation gap but we should try to limit the difference between children and parents in order to avoid the problem in family relationship.